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Dissuading my girlfriend from a scam

What's Wrong With Being a Turkey? One of our dear friends comes to us to seek advice, since we seem to know a thing or two about money. Our friend just so happens to be a turkey - a particularly ...
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Parent asking for money after I moved out

Your father was giving your mother money intended to be spent on your food, clothing, textbooks, and so forth. Your mother no longer has these expenses. The only expense that remains for her is rent (...
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Should a sibling pay rent to another sibling on a jointly owned house?

A good way to figure out what is fair in such a situation is to mentally separate the various roles, and to explore the rights and obligations of the roles first, and to then aggregate them. Here we ...
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Are my parents ripping me off with this deal that doesn't allow me to build my equity in my home?

It's a little unusual, but I don't think the financial terms are completely unreasonable on their face. What you describe is similar to an interest-only loan, where you make payments that only cover ...
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Considerations when providing money to one child now, and the other later?

Loaning money to close relations tends to end poorly. You are better off not loaning your older child money. This solves all your issues except for one. You mention that your cash savings are ...
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Should I pay myself back for paying family's rent out of our pool of money?

David Schwartz's answer is great, I just wanted to add that since you have credit card debt, that $1,500 in rent could cost you a lot more due to interest. Average credit card interest rate is ~16%, ...
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Parent asking for money after I moved out

I have no problem with you helping your mother but only under the following circumstances: You have enough room in your budget to help out. You should not go into debt or sacrifice your necessities ...
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Dissuading my girlfriend from a scam

I think it's less about proving that it's a Ponzi scheme and more about thinking which argument will resonate best with her. Everyone responds to different types of arguments. For someone who is a ...
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Parent asking for money after I moved out

"Mom, that sort of thing is court-ordered." Tell her that she will need to go back to court to have the divorce settlement modified. You will be happy to comply with any court order, of course. ...
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Do you lose money if you don't use a plane ticket you won in a raffle?

If the tickets are worth e.g. $1000 and you need another $1000 travel expenses to use them, the free tickets basically are a 50% discount on the whole trip. This is very similar to a $2000 TV that is ...
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Do you lose money if you don't use a plane ticket you won in a raffle?

This is a variation of the sunk cost fallacy. What you paid or didn't pay for the tickets should have no bearing on what you decide to do. The only question you should ask is if this travel will be a ...
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Should a sibling pay rent to another sibling on a jointly owned house?

The answer is actually somewhere between "yes" and "no". Think of it this way: if you didn't live in the house, then the house could be rented out, generating some rental income. ...
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Should I pay myself back for paying family's rent out of our pool of money?

There is no right or wrong answer to this question. It's really about how much you are willing to, are expected to, or should help your family. You could certainly gift the $1,500 to your family and ...
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Dissuading my girlfriend from a scam

TL;DR Knowledge is the only way to dissuade a person. If they don't accept knowledge then there is unfortunately very little you can do besides beg them not to do it. Unless this is money laundering ...
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Should I charge my children interest when they borrow money?

I think there's value in charging family members/friends interest if it will make them take the loan seriously. The problem is that if you're thinking about charging interest because the person seems ...
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How to handle a parent going through divorce asking to borrow money

Lending money between relations is typically a bad idea. This can lead to very awkward dinner conversations and has been known to terminate these precious relationships. In these cases the wisdom is ...
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Are my parents ripping me off with this deal that doesn't allow me to build my equity in my home?

"Ripped off" may be too strong as it implies intent - I'm hopeful it's just bad logic or terminology. I would say better agreements would be: You own the condo 100% and borrow the remaining 75% ...
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Should I charge my children interest when they borrow money?

Tell them you will not loan them any more money until their existing debts are paid off. This is closer to how the real world works and it won't come across as vengeful or like your changing your ...
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Dissuading my girlfriend from a scam

A sign that it is a Ponzi scheme is that the returns are so good that the victim lets it ride. They are encouraged to not pull money from the program. Showing them the cash makes it seem real, but ...
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Considerations when providing money to one child now, and the other later?

I tend to follow the Keep It Simple, Stupid principle. Next year at the same time when I give my college student daughter some money for a car, I'm going to give her brother an equal amount of money. ...
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Should a sibling pay rent to another sibling on a jointly owned house?

It's tricky when multiple parties own a house, contribute to the upkeep unequally, and enjoy the benefits of owning the house unequally. I agree with both of you to some extent. She should get some ...
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What is the best way to loan money to a family member until CD matures?

I will first look at your three scenarios: I could gift her $37,000 and ask her to pay it back later. But that exceeds gift limits and also seems “wrong” as it isn’t a gift. The lender will notice ...
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Are my parents ripping me off with this deal that doesn't allow me to build my equity in my home?

To expand on what @fishinear and some others are saying: The only way to look at it is that the parents have invested, because the parents get a % of the property in the end, rather than the ...
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Joint owned property 50% each. Can 50% rent be charged?

I can't speak to the legality of forcing her to pay rent (it seems hard to do that when she partially owns the house). But I would definitely be frank with her that she is getting 100% of the benefit ...
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Do you lose money if you don't use a plane ticket you won in a raffle?

Not really an economic concept, but the phrase "just because it's on sale doesn't mean you need it" comes to mind. Am I losing money by not buying a car that's suddenly $2000 off? This is ...
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What is today's price of €15.000 given 15 years ago?

What you are positioning as a loan was not a loan at all. Your father bought something to be delivered in the future. Your aunt does not want to deliver it, so she should buy it back at whatever the ...
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Dissuading my girlfriend from a scam

Have her invest exactly 1 dollar and allow her to only re-invest any money deriven from that very first dollar. Within 3 years (which equal 36 months), she will either be a millionaire or she will ...
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Parent asking for money after I moved out

First and foremost: this might be a legal issue, not a financial one. In most locales, support payments like this are part of the formal divorce settlement. Someone needs to locate a copy of that ...
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Should a sibling pay rent to another sibling on a jointly owned house?

It is helpful to imagine that you are two different people, one who is the half-owner of the house and one who is renting the house. Let's look first at you as the half-owner. You and your sister are ...
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Joint owned property 50% each. Can 50% rent be charged?

This should be an example to future readers on how just having a will and leaving assets which are not easily divided can create issues. No good can come of this type of situation. As D Stanley ...
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