I've been reading why tipping is bad for everyone.
- Waitresses are forced to look and act cute if they want to make money. It's emotionally tiring. They have to jeopardize their integrity for money, and it encourages sexual harassment.
- Employees make less stable income, being subjected to the whims of customers. (Note, they also get lower wages since employers know they will be tipped. It evens out in theory, but there's more risk involved.)
- In areas where certain ethnicities are less able to tip, waiters give them worse service, anticipating the lower tip.
- Making informed decisions is harder for consumers because tips aren't reflected in menu prices. It tricks people. It's just unnecessary effort.
I'd like to stop tipping in hopes that someday, service costs will be reflected in higher prices and higher wages for waiters.
But I don't want to seem rude if it can be avoided. How do I do this?
How do I help waiters and waitresses understand where I'm coming from?
How do I leave 0 tip and not feel guilty or make anyone feel bad?
I don't want to simply avoid all situations where tipping is customary. I'm unclear as to what could be gained from that.
I could tell the waiter in advance that I won't tip and explain why. I could offer to leave if they don't want non-tipping customers. I could leave a pamphlet with my bill explaining it all, offering more information about why tipping is bad. I may need to use a masked credit card in case of retaliation. I may need to check my credit card charges carefully to make sure they don't overcharge me out of anger. But I don't know anything about non-tipper culture or how to make it work.