I co-signed a car loan for my ex-girlfriend, the loan was for $13,500 with payments set at $300 plus $100 for insurance. To make a long story short, she was hard on the car (broken windshield/rearview mirror, driver side window broken, dents and scratches on body, interior filthy, slashed dashboard, scratches/chew marks from dogs, remote key alarm broken, terrible smell in the interior, engine doesn't sound good. All this damage was done in about 7 months.

We split up and she wants the car, I told her that I'm keeping the car because she is destroying it (it has 77,000 miles on it). She said she won't make me liable if anything happens to it and, if needed, she has parents that have the money to bail her out. Her credit score has gone down and mine has taken a couple hits since we got the car so I don't think we can re-finance. Her Dad offered $1000 and take over the payments, until he got all the details, then he backed out.

What should I do?

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    The loan and the title are two different things. Whose name is on the title?
    – JohnFx
    Oct 10, 2016 at 20:08
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    Also, if the car is partly "destroyed", why the heck do you want it? Let her keep it, and let her continue to make the payments on it; get your own name off the loan if at all possible and go buy yourself a used car in better condition. End of argument.
    – keshlam
    Oct 10, 2016 at 23:31

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First off learn from this: Never cosign again. There are plenty of other "tales of woe" outlined on this site that started and ended similarly.

Secondly do what you can to get off of the loan. First I'd go back to her dad and offer him $1000 to take you off the loan and sign over the car. Maybe go up to $3000 if you have that much cash. If that doesn't work go to the bank and offer them half of the loan balance to take you off. You can sign a personal loan for that amount (maybe). Whatever it takes to get off the loan. If she has a new BF offer him the same deal as the dad.

Why do you have to do this? Because you owned an asset that was once valued at 13K and is valued at (probably) less than 4K. Given that you have a loan on it the leverage works against you causing you to lose more money. The goal now is to cut your losses and learn from your mistakes.

I feel like the goal of your post was to make your ex-gf look bad. It's more important to do some self examination. If she was such a bad person why did you date her? Why did you enter a business transaction with her? I'd recommend seeking counseling on why you make such poor choices and to help you avoid them in the future.

Along these lines I'd also examine your goals in life. If your desire is to be a wealthy person, then why would you borrow money to buy a car? Seek to imitate rich people to become rich. Picking the right friends and mates is an important part of this.

If you do not have a desire to be a wealthy person what does it matter? Losing 13K over seven months is a small step in the "right" direction.

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    Pretty serious false dichotomy at the end there. Oct 10, 2016 at 18:17
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    This answer is kind of preachy. I suggest removing the sermon at the end and stick to the factual answers.
    – JohnFx
    Oct 10, 2016 at 20:07
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    I would upvote the first three paragraphs of this answer, but I would downvote the second half. This site is about giving people financial advise, not passing personal judgement about their dating life
    – Kevin
    Jul 20, 2021 at 18:20

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