We have a budget planned out for various categories, and in order to make ends meet we count on child support for my wife's child from a previous marriage. However, lately we have not been receiving this amount. How do we deal with this in the budget?

My wife has just been "borrowing" it from our savings, but I don't think that is reasonable given that I find it highly unlikely we will ever be able to recover it. On the other hand, she doesn't think it reasonable to cut out of her budget and cutting it out of the budget for the kids (which is where it really should be going!) isn't reasonable either.

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    This question appears to be off-topic because it is about a legal matter. In my opinion, you should be talking to a lawyer. Mar 5, 2014 at 20:57
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    @JoeTaxpayer No, because there isn't any legal recourse against someone who hasn't the means to pay, and we don't have the resources to pursue even if they did have the means. The question is solely about how to deal with this in our budget.
    – Andy
    Mar 5, 2014 at 20:59
  • And don't get me started on my pet peeve that the legal system is systematically biased towards the rich in civil cases. Lawyers aren't free!
    – Andy
    Mar 5, 2014 at 21:02

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This is the same as any case where income is variable. How do you deal with the months where expected cash flows are lower than projected?

When I got married, my wife was in the habit of allocating money to be spent in the current month from income accrued during the previous month. This is slightly complicated because we account for taxes (and benefit expenses) withheld in the current months' paychecks as current expenses, but we allocate the gross income from that check to the following month for spending.

The benefit of spending only money made during the previous month is that income shocks are less shocking. I was working for a start-up and they missed payroll that normally arrived on the first of the month. Most of my co-workers were calling the bank in a panic to avoid over-draft fees with their mortgage payments, but my mortgage payment was already covered. Similarly, when the same start-up had a reduction in force on the first day of a new quarter, I didn't have to pull any money from savings during the 3 weeks I was unemployed.

In the end, you're going to have to allocate money to the budget based on the actual income--which is lower than your expectations. What part of the budget should fairly be reduced is a question you and your wife will have to figure out.

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    +1 If the income has gone down and likely that it will never come in near future, then the expense has to go down as well.
    – Dheer
    Mar 6, 2014 at 4:38
  • +1 Folks can check out the program YNAB, You Need a Budget, for a tool which makes it easy to target current income to future expenses. Mar 7, 2014 at 18:10

You have several choices:

  • assume it will never be there, and when it does appear save it for something like college.
  • assume it will always be there, and pull it from savings when it doesn't appear.
  • estimate some amount in between and save some for the months it is missing.

If you can't count on it being there every month, and there is no hope of getting it via the courts, then it appears you need to assume it never will be there.

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