I'm currently 19 for some background...(in aurora Colorado)
My mom is a single mom raising me even though my father and her are technically still married. She made me get a job when I was 16 which I was fine with, but the catch was that I had to do it at the place she worked at and had to direct deposit in her bank account. I didn't understand why and she summarized that I live with her and need to pay for rent and her driving me around since I wasn't allowed to get my license. I didn't agree but she's a single mom so I understood. Over 1 year I got my license and I told her I wanted a car because I worked full time for 1 year and made over 15k. She said we couldn't afford it because she used that money to pay bills since we're only two people living in a huge house. I tolde her I understood but I still couldn't open up my own bank account.
I was frustrated and embarressed because I couldn't tell my friends why I couldn't drive anywhere or do anything because I didn't have money too. Another year passes and I'm more frustrated. I tell her before my birthday, I would like a car and she told me we stll don't have the money even though I contributed over 30k into our household. I continued to live with her as an adult because I had literally NO money into my name.
I'm 19 now. And my dad is now in my life and he told me that he paid half of our bills. I was hurt and confused I still have no car, I get driven everywhere I don't have money to do anything because I actually pay rent out of my bank account which is fine.
The issue is my mother lied to me, and I believed her. I gave her all my paychecks for 2 years in good faith. But the reality was that she wouldn't tell me why she needed the money and I STILL don't know. I've consistently talked to my mom for years and she told me I was ungrateful and I could leave. I'm just very frustrated and I want to know if that is legal for her to do. Thank you