I recently realised that my partner is more anxious than I suspected about what we're going to do about money.
Principally, she feels guilty for spending money on herself, and is worried about the amount she's going to have to spend on new clothes "post-baby". We're both on good salaries for our age, our relationship is healthy, and I'd basically assumed that as I'd be cutting back on non-essentials (comics, DVDs, the various wasteful excesses of a late-20's non-parent), and reduced the amount being automatically channelled into my savings accounts, that would cover at least some of the additional costs.
What I hadn't really considered is that, apart from simply being more prone to money worries, she seems to feel like it's unfair to ask me to pay for stuff that is more related to her than to the baby, such as maternity bras, new clothes now that she's post-pregnancy.
She's going to be doing the majority of the caring for the baby once I'm back at work, and I want to make sure that she doesn't undervalue this and feel like she can't go out because she's not earning. Beyond that, I'd been mentally treating our available money as a shared pool which I happened to be contributing more to at the moment because of circumstances. At the same time I don't want to upset her by making her feel like a dependent (her salary is much the same as mine).
One thing we don't have yet is a set of shared accounts, which may help, but I was hoping for some experienced advice.